How Do You Disagree With Someone When You Do The Work?
A client recently asked me this question. She has been doing The Work on her husband, who had an affair. She wrote, “If you understand someone’s motivation for doing something and feel compassion for them, how do you then disagree with them? For example, I may reach the point where I really understand my husband having an affair (and I have reached that point before), but then how do I say, ‘I don’t want to be with you,’ if I really understand his motivation. Doesn’t understanding him mean the same as forgiving? And if I forgive, then I will want to be with him.”