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Wiggle Room Podcast: Episode 59

How To Use The Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet In The Heat Of The Moment + Can the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet Be Used As a Communication Tool? + Transcending Family "Rules"

In this episode of the Wiggle Room Podcast, a participant asks some excellent questions about the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet as a tool. I share what works and doesn’t work for me personally.

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Timeline

01:01 — Intro

04:41 — Question: How To Use The Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet In The Heat Of The Moment

12:06 — Question: Can the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet Be Used As a Communication Tool?

29:07 — Newsletter: Transcending Family “Rules”

35:37 — Outro

Open Session Recording

Listen to the Open Session recording as we talk about The Work of Byron Katie. A participant brings up some interesting questions about how the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet can be used.

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Bonus Videos

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How To Use The Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet In The Heat Of The Moment

Can the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet Be Used As a Communication Tool?

Transcending Family "Rules"

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