The Work is not about justifying. It’s about gaining understanding. If you’re new to The Work, you might be surprised to find turnarounds like, “He should have hit me.” Or “I should have had three éclairs.” At first sight, these turnarounds sound like justification. It sounds like they are encouraging others, or myself, to do things that are bad.
I’m still learning how to share. You may have mastered how to share on the playground when you were a kid. But I didn’t. So I’m learning now, living with my partner.
One of the areas that people who are new to The Work sometimes find challenging is the turnarounds.
There are two parts to finding turnarounds:
1. Finding the technical turnarounds
2. Finding examples of how the turnarounds could be true
What I love about The Work Is that It Is not help. It’s not a facilitator’s job to show you what you’re missing. That’s your job. And with the questions of The Work, no outside help is needed.
Do your visions of how peaceful things could be bring you peace or stress? I Had a Cool Session with a Client Last Week She
It happened a couple of weeks ago. I was writing newsletter articles in an airplane. And was working offline.
Last weekend we pulled dandelions. Not from the beautiful orchard in the photo, but from the back yard, which had about as many growing there. I’d guess that I pulled about 200-300 dandelions last weekend. But when I was just starting, I lost heart very quickly.
Who doesn’t love planning for and working towards a better future? There’s a lot of good in it. But the problem comes when you start comparing those future dreams with reality. Especially, since it’s usually not clear how to get from today’s situation to those dreams.
We are not meant to live stressed lives. Learn how to address the root cause of your stress and find your freedom again. Otherwise, stress will keep accumulating. Learn how to break the cycle of stress here.
