I Usually Prefer Specific JYNW’s Written Out Of a Particular Time and Location
There’s a lot of power in using specifics when writing a Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet (JYNW). First of all, it keeps things focused and simple to write. Secondly, it dampens the overall motive to fix everything in one go by doing The Work. And finally, it doesn’t let the mind get away with bogus examples.
Specifics lend real power to The Work.
But Sometimes I Still Write Worksheets That Are General
For example, when I want to forgive someone in general, I sometimes write a general worksheet. I’m not writing about one particular instance, but about general personality traits.
And this has helped me to do The Work from a birds-eye view.
But this is occasional. Mainly, I zoom down into the particulars, writing specific worksheets on specific moments when I got triggered.
If I Do Write a General Worksheet, I Slow It Down
I often find that I need to find five or ten examples for each turnaround to satisfy me, instead of just three.
And I often refer to several specific situations as I work a worksheet in general. I may give examples from each of them repeatedly as I work.
In a sense, doing a worksheet in general is like doing several specific worksheets simultaneously. It can never replace the power of diving into one specific instance, but sometimes it’s just where the mind needs to go.
So I Break the Rules Occasionally
And enjoy a nice general worksheet when I feel like it. How about you?
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Have a great weekend,
Todd
“The point is not to find the most turnarounds, but to find the ones that set you free from the nightmare you’re innocently attached to.” — Byron Katie, Loving What Is p. 96.
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