We all know how it feels. When things go your way, it feels great. You have energy, you’re happy, you’re friendly and easy to be with. People like you. You’re clear-minded and you make fewer mistakes. You become better at everything you do.
But when things don’t go your way, just the opposite happens. The wind gets knocked out of your sails. You feel stressed, tired, angry, or sad. Your energy goes down and you lose enthusiasm for tackling life’s challenges. You become less effective at everything. Oh, and did I mention, your relationships take a turn for the worse.
If happiness is dependent on things going your way, your life is going to be a rollercoaster. You’re stuck riding an unending ride going from happy one moment to sad the next. Everything is dependent on the outside world cooperating so that you can get what you want.
This leads us to try hard to change the world around us. And when we are successful, it’s great. But many times, we are not. And then suffering starts up again.
There has to be a way to stay happy even when things don’t go your way. That’s what this website is about.
Suffering is not caused by anything outside you. Suffering comes from how you see things. If you’re attached to only one outcome (and no other will do), you will suffer if it doesn’t turn out that way.
Suffering is caused by your thinking.
The mind gets attached to what it thinks. It often believes that what it thinks is true, right, or the best idea, even when it’s not. It becomes one-sided, closed, and defensive. Then frustrated. In this trap, the mind gets caught by its own thinking.
When this happens, it loses touch with reality and starts a vicious cycle of stress—attachement leads to feeling stressed, and this stress closes the mind further, leading to more attachment.
I have helped thousands of clients and course participants learn how to break the cycle of stress and suffering for themselves since 2007.
And my most important client is me.
I started with a lot of stress myself. I was unable to integrate my inner world with my outer world, especially with regards to my most significant relationship. My attachment was to my meditation time and my inner happiness, and I judged everything else as materialistic.
I found a process called The Work, and along the way I developed my own community for getting the most out of this amazing process. I have been participating in this community and doing my work there since 2013. As a result, my life looks very different today. I am finding the balance between inner and outer life.
Kindness and understanding are what I prize above all else. When you work with me individually or in my community, you will experience my kindness and gentleness supporting you to go within. I don’t have rules for you. I don’t push you. You can bring anything to me. I am deeply skilled in creating a safe place for you to work.
I also have a passion for my own self-discovery and yours. You will catch this enthusiasm for working through anything, no matter how difficult, in every interaction you have with me. It is contagious. My bet is that you too will become passionate about your work and about the freedom it can bring as you spend time with me.
There’s also a lot of laughter when you work with me. I love the humor and feeling of relief that so often comes when exploring together. I have been told by many people that laughter is one of my unique traits as a facilitator.
In addition, I am very precise by nature. This, combined with an ability to listen deeply, allows me to give deeply satisfying answers to your questions and to create courses that take you step-by-step to mastery.
And finally, long-term discipline is my rock. I have been doing The Work daily since 2007 and practicing meditation daily since 1976. Over all these years, it has been a rare day that I have missed my practices. My programs are designed to support you in finding your own discipline. I can not only inspire you to want to do your inner work, day after day, year after year, but I can actually help you make it happen.
Many people, before working with me, have told me they liked the idea of The Work but didn’t actually do it that much. When they started working with me, they were able to create a sustained practice of The Work which has transformed their lives.
When working on your thinking, you’re opening a vulnerable part of yourself. My job is not to interfere with your process, give advice, or push you in any direction.
My role is to be a facilitator. I hold the space for you to do this process but it’s always up to you to discover your own truths, the ones that will touch you most deeply. My job is simply to follow you and support you to stay in the process.
I’m here to live a life of love and fearlessness and to support you to do the same.
When you work with me individually or in my community, you can expect…
The only requirement is an open mind. If you can bring an open mind, you can begin this work and find results.
I offer three ways to work with me. Choose what suits you best.
The most popular solution is to join our online community, take my community-based courses, and gain ongoing support for learning and deepening your work.
If you can afford it, private sessions are a great way to accelerate your learning and gain deep support for your practice.
And if you just want to try it out, I offer do-it-yourself courses that can get you doing this process on your own in no time.
Go to my solutions page now to learn more and get started.
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