Dealing with Grief Workshop
Last offered in Austria, Sep 20-27, 2019. New dates and location to be chosen for the next course soon. If you want to be notified of the next upcoming course, please contact Todd.
Grief Is the Effect
To deal with grief, it is necessary to address the cause of grief.
The cause of grief appears to be the loss of a loved one, the breakup of a marriage, the loss of a job, the loss of a friend, the loss of status, failure, loss of an opportunity, etc. But these external causes are just the triggers for grief. The real cause of grief lies deeper. It lies in the thinking.
My Experience with Grief
My mother died in a small plane crash in 2010. The accident devastated our whole family because not only did she die but my step-brother and his wife died with her.
My way to deal with my own grief has been to write down my thoughts and to question each one slowly and carefully using a simple method called The Work of Byron Katie (The Work). After my mom died, I did The Work every day for two months on her death. I wrote down every stressful thought that came up for me and I questioned it.
What I found was that when I questioned my thoughts, my grief slowly lifted. After two months, I no longer felt grief at the thought of my mom's death. I was left only feeling love for her. Since that time nine years ago, my grief has not come back. I think of her often, but with love, no longer with sadness.
This Didn't Happen By Magic
The shift from grief to love did not happen by chance. I was not one of the "lucky ones." My relief came from a systematic questioning of my thinking.
This is what I offer to you in this 7-day, in-residence workshop in Austria. Whatever you may be grieving, we will all come together to help each other question the thinking that causes grief. This is a very meditative experience. But I think you will also find that it comes with a lot of laughter as well.
You Will Identify The Grief-Producing Thoughts You Are Thinking
This process of questioning your stressful thoughts is very personal. Each of us grieves differently, and each of us has different stressful thoughts to question. For me, a big one was "I need to figure it out." When I questioned this thought, a large part of my grief fell away.
I had literally been trying to figure out how the accident happened so that I could somehow prevent it. When I saw this, I naturally began to let go.
You will learn how to identify the stressful thoughts that cause your grief. Yours will be different than mine. We will spend time in the course learning from each other what thoughts are stressing us. And we spend a lot of time supporting each other to question these thoughts.
But What If I Don't Have Any Grief? Can I Still Come?
We tend to think of grief as something that happens when someone dies, or when a big loss happens. But I like to think that every stressful experience, no matter how small, is a version of grief. These small twinges of sadness, even anger, are reactions to the fact that things didn't go the way we wanted them to.
This is a small version of grief. And while we may get over it in a short amount of time, we can also take more time to look closely at it. I do The Work of Byron Katie as a regular practice, and what I discover from questioning my stressful thoughts about "small" incidents is equally powerful as what I discover from working "the big ones."
In reality, there is very little difference between "big" and "small" versions of grief. As I have continued to do my work, I find that I am becoming more immune to grief. If you want to work on preventive maintenance by doing this work, I encourage you to join us. You can do The Work on the "grief" of not getting what you want in a relationship, at work, with money, with family, etc. Even losing a game, if stressful, can be a window into the mind. Join us, and let's do The Work together.
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After decades of Buddhist practice I am so grateful to have found The Work. It is like the missing link to me and I seem to get the best of the 2 worlds. During this week of The Work dealing with grief I was able to plunge deep. Todd encouraged us to investigate on deep-rooted beliefs causing grief, fears, unease, etc. In other words beliefs that hinder us to live our full potential and most of all our inborn ability to love.
Todd was very understanding and encouraging which created an atmosphere of trust. He made useful suggestions and one-liners for us to be able to investigate deeply. I am so grateful that I had the opportunity to work with him during this week.
I am very gratefull for this week - a beautiful caring location in Burgenland/Austria, a small group with wonderful people and time enough to follow Todd's invitation and explore various aspects of grief in my own life. Todd was an ever-present, calm, kind and experienced guide for my journey to my own thoughts and beliefs. I came home with my heart wide open. Thank you, Todd!
I never had such a deep experience in life before this workshop with Todd. To deal with grief, to deal with myself in such an extensive manner. Undescribeable.
Todd's work changed my view on life radically. And I'm going to form such a retreat as a really worthwhile habit to usual life once a year.
Thank You, Todd
I came onto this workshop to deal with deeply held beliefs, which were not bad in and of themselves, but I could not discern between internal and external reference. And that made me doubt myself more than was good.
This workshop has been transformational for me; and Todd led the workshop with a serenity and grace, he has a beautiful way of dealing with people. I was and still am deeply impressed.
How our group came together during this intense time was magical and filled with joy and laughter besides the more serious aspects of the week's topic.
Thank you one and all
Thank you Todd
The days at "Landhofmühle", a very beautiful place for this workshop, with Todd were so powerful and intensive. We were accompanied by Todd's lightness and depth, his clear structure and special questions.
My personal experience is, that I get more and more in deep connection with me and with people, not hiding myself anymore.
Thank you Todd and also to all who attend this workshop in Austria!
It was enrichment in every sense.
Previous Course Details - 7 Days In-Residence
Please see the details for the previous course below as a reference. New course details will be added when a new date and location have been chosen. If you want to be notified when the next course is announced, please contact Todd.
Location: Southeast Austria near Hungary and Slovenia
Accommodations: Landhofmühle hotel in the beautiful Austrian countryside
Arrive: Friday, September 20, 2019 at 5 PM
Depart: Friday, September 27, 2019 at 1 PM
Price: 1200,-€ (includes tuition, accommodation and vegetarian meals)
Sessions: Todd Smith leads morning, afternoon, and evening sessions.
This event is open to beginners and to those who are new to The Work, as well as to those who have a lot of experience doing The Work of Byron Katie.