Dealing with Grief – Workshop, Austria, Sep 20-27, 2019

​Grief Is the Effect​

​To deal with grief, it is necessary to address the cause of grief.

The cause of grief ​appears to be the loss of a loved one, the breakup of a marriage, the loss of a job, the loss of a friend, the loss of status, failure, loss of an opportunity, etc. But ​these external causes are just the triggers for grief. The real cause of grief lies deeper​. It lies in the thinking.

​My Experience with Grief

My mother died in a small plane crash in 2010. The accident devastated our whole family because not only ​did she die but my step-brother and his wife died with her.

​My way to deal with my own grief ​has been to write down my thoughts and to question each one slowly and carefully using a simple method called The Work of Byron Katie (The Work). ​After my mom died, I did The Work every day for two months on her death. I wrote down every stressful thought that came up for me and I questioned it.

What I found was that ​when I questioned my thoughts, my grief slowly lifted. After two months, I no longer felt grief at the thought of my mom's death. I was left only feeling love for her. Since that time nine years ago, my grief has not come back. I think of her often, but with love, no longer with sadness.

​This Didn't Happen By Magic

​The shift from grief to love​ did not happen by chance. I was not one of the "lucky ones." My relief came from a systematic questioning of my thinking. ​

​This is what I offer to you in this 7-day, in-residence workshop in Austria. ​Whatever you may be grieving, we will all come together to help each other question the thinking that causes grief. This is a very meditative experience. But I think you will also find that it comes with a lot of laughter as well. ​

​You Will Identify The Grief-Producing Thoughts You Are Thinking

​This process of questioning your stressful thoughts is very personal. Each of us grieves differently, and each of us has different stressful thoughts to question. For me, a big one was "I need to figure it out." When I questioned this thought, a large part of my grief fell away.

I had literally been trying to figure out how the accident happened so that I could somehow prevent it. When I saw this, I ​naturally began to let go.

​You will ​learn how to identify the stressful thoughts ​that cause your grief. Yours will be different than mine. We will spend time in the course learning from each other what thoughts are stressing us. And we spend a lot of time supporting each other to question these thoughts.

​But What If I Don't ​Have Any Grief? Can I Still Come?

​We tend to think of grief as something that happens when someone dies, or when ​a big loss happens. But I ​like to think that every stressful experience, no matter how small, is a version of grief. These small twinges of sadness, even anger, are reactions to the fact that things didn't go the way we wanted them to.

This is a small version of grief. ​And while ​we may get over it in a short amount of time, ​we can also take more time to look closely at it. I do The Work of Byron Katie as a regular practice, and what I discover from questioning my stressful thoughts about "small" incidents is equally powerful as what I discover from working "the big ones." 

In reality, there is very little difference between "big" and "small" versions of grief. As I have continued to do my work, I find that I am becoming more immune to grief. If you want to work on preventive maintenance by doing this work, I encourage you to join us. You can do The Work on the "grief" of not getting what you want in a relationship, at work, with money, with family, etc. Even ​losing a game, if stressful, can be a window into the mind. Join us, and let's do The Work together.

​Course Details - 7 Days In-Residence

Location: ​Southeast Austria near Hungary and Slovenia

Accommodations:​ ​Landhofmühle hotel in the beautiful Austrian countryside

​Arrive: Friday, September 20, 2019 at 5 PM
Depart:  ​Friday, September 27, 2019 at 1 PM

Price: 1200,-€ (includes tuition, accommodation and vegetarian meals)

Language: English

​Sessions: Todd Smith will lead morning and afternoon sessions​. ​Certified facilitators will lead evening sessions. Our host, Maria Stachel, ​from Austria is ​organizing the workshop. Please contact her using the form below to make payments or to ask questions about the venue.

​This event is open to beginners and to those who are new to The Work, as well as to those who have a lot of experience doing The Work of Byron Katie.

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