The Work is an experiential process with several defined steps to go through. If you jump from the beginning of the process to the end of the process, you can miss the experience of transformation. What looks like a shortcut, may turn out to be a short circuit.
I just do The Work because that’s what I like to do. I like cleaning my mind every day—just a little bit. I’m not trying to make everything perfect in there. That’s probably not possible anyway. I’m just questioning my thoughts a little here and there because it feels good to do so.
When I first started The Work, I would just find a stressful thought and then question it. Then find another stressful thought and question it. I still do The Work that way today. But my approach has also shifted a bit. Now I look for stressful situations first
The stressful moment is the time right after the offense occurred. That’s when it hits you. And that’s when the stress begins. So, whenever possible before writing a worksheet, I like to identify what they did to hurt me (the offense) and the specific moment when they did it.
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