Byron Katie often invites us to ask ourselves, “Who’s business are you in?” Just noticing that I’m in someone else’s business can be very helpful in bringing me back to my own business. But it’s easy to take this principle of not being in the other person’s business too far. Especially when doing The Work.
Hobbies are not serious. That’s what makes them fun! Even when you take your hobby seriously, as I’m sure these model airplane hobbyists do, there is always a certain lightness to the way you hold a hobby. After all, it’s just for fun. Compare this to the way many of us take life—like it’s life or death! We see it as very serious. Survival is at risk. It’s not play. But why does life have to be so serious?
Training wheels are great. Every kid loves them because they allow you to start biking earlier. Even before you can balance on a bicycle, you can pedal around on a bike with training wheels. But eventually, the training wheels have to come off because they eventually become an hindrance to riding. And once you learn to balance on your own, they are not needed anyway.
I love to ask myself things and then see what I discover when I do. Photography is a great example of this. Should I move to the left? Yes. No, a little too far. Is there a better angle on this? It is a process of asking myself. I do this really well when I’m alone. But the problem comes when I involve others
Nothing causes me more stress than being presented with two diverging paths.
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