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There’s a Want Behind Every Stress

If I want a strawberry but can’t have it, I feel stress.

Here’s a Simple Way to Do The Work

Find a stressful situation and ask yourself, “What am I wanting?” Then write down your wants and question them using the four questions and turnarounds of The Work.

If I feel stress, I’m wanting something to be different than the way it is. All I have to do is identify that want and question it in order to I come back to peace.

It Really Is that Simple

Even if I fill in a full Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet, it’s just a more detailed version of writing down my wants.

For example, Line 2: “I want them to _____.” Line 3: “They should/n’t _____.” Line 4: “I need them to ______.”

“I need” and “They should” are basically variations on “I want.”

So Look for the Want (or Need)

Sometimes my wants are about someone else. That’s when I use a Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet to write them down.

And sometimes my wants don’t involve a person at all, or don’t fit the worksheet. That’s when I write my wants as one-liners or underlying beliefs.

One way or the other, I write my wants down and question them.

Test It Out and Let Me Know what you Find

A life without wants is a peaceful life.

Have a great week,

“Without a motive, the pain disappears.” Byron Katie. Question Your Thinking, Change The World.

Todd Smith has been doing The Work of Byron Katie on an almost daily basis since 2007. He is just as excited about this simple process of self-inquiry today as he was when he first came across it. He also enjoys writing about The Work, and training others in the subtleties of this meditative process. Join Todd for The Work 101 online course, private sessions, virtual retreats, and his ongoing Inquiry Circle group.