The Fourth Annual Address Book Challenge
Every year I do an inventory. An inventory of old stressful stories. I find these old stories frozen away conveniently in my address book.
Every year I do an inventory. An inventory of old stressful stories. I find these old stories frozen away conveniently in my address book.
One reader reports his experience, “Making amends seems like a chore. And because the original spark or insight has faded, it doesn’t seem genuine to make the amends anymore, it’s as if I’m only doing it in order to tick it off a list.”
Is there a way to remove the stressful part of wanting? For me, there is…
Finding a job that Is fun is a common ideal for many of us. I know I’ve tried to create this kind of ideal job many times. I’ve always tried to do professionally what I wanted to do personally. For example, I was a meditation teacher because I wanted to meditate. I was a photographer because I liked photography as a hobby. And even now, I’m a facilitator because I like to do The Work. But a lot of the time doing fun jobs, or jobs I really wanted to do, didn’t make much money.
A client and I were chatting the other day. And he said he’s got a theory that God is a bit of a sadist. I’ve heard that from other clients too. In fact, a part of me can buy into the story too. I mean isn’t that what Murphy’s Law is all about, “Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.”? So what’s up with that? Is God really out to give us a hard time? It’s a serious question. Because sometimes it seems like that.
Facilitating Is the easiest job in the world. But being an expert in someone else’s life is the most difficult job in the world. In fact, it’s impossible. So why is facilitating easy?
Sometimes making amends is challenging. Several things can get in the way of making a direct amends. First of all, the person may be dead. Secondly, there are times when making amends could cause harm by bringing out new hurtful information, or by opening a healing wound.
No one likes negativity. I think this dislike is built into our systems. We shun everything unpleasant, and seek everything pleasant. And there’s nothing wrong with that at all. Nothing wrong with preferences. The problem comes when shunning unpleasantness becomes an obsession. And when it comes filled with fear and a desire to control.
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