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Month: November 2015

Sometimes I Think Quantity Is Better Than Quality

Quantity tends to get a bad rap. At least in my mind. Because I’m always going for quality. Going for the gold. Going for gold is not a bad thing. But it has it’s disadvantages. For one, if the door to “gold” is closed, I can end up stuck banging my head against that closed door for a long time.

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Why I Love The “Yahoo” Turnaround

I used the yahoo turnaround recently with a client. She was working the statement, “I am slower than my colleagues at work.” This was stressful for her. And her mind couldn’t stop comparing herself to them.

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How Do You Handle Story Telling as a Facilitator?

How do you handle the ‘story telling’? How do you react when a person is nearly crying, do you only say, ‘I invite you to go back to the situation?’ Or do you say any more? Do you interrupt at the first ‘because,’ or do you let them finish one or two sentences? And when they say, in questions 1 or 2, ‘Yes,’ and then add a sentence explaining their answer, do you say anything after this sentence even if they are quiet now and ready for the next question?

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Amends: Another Powerful Way To Stop Beating Yourself Up

Sometimes you’re just guilty. And there’s no getting around it. You may discover this in your answers to question 3 of The Work (how do you react?). Or you may find it while doing your turnarounds. In fact, you may find your part at any point while doing The Work. The mind, of course, loves to grab onto this and beat you up with it. How do you stop this self-flagellation when you’re actually guilty?

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The Work Is For The Little Devil On Your Shoulder

Many times I’m not believing my thoughts one hundred percent. So it’s easy to think, “I don’t need to do The Work. I can see through this.” But The Work is not for the larger part of me that can see through it. The Work is for the little devil sitting on my shoulder whispering, “Don’t fall for that spiritual B.S.”

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