Month: March 2015

I started out thinking to write a worksheet on “life” for giving me too much to do. I’ve been frustrated recently because I’ve been juggling too much. Then I thought, actually I should write a worksheet on my business. Since most of my extra work is coming from my business. I know I could write a good worksheet on that. But I found an even cooler angle.

Circular logic means that you begin with what you are trying to end with. For example, “The Pope is infallible. Why? Because everything he says is true.”

When you do The Work, are you comparing your answers to some ideal? Take question four for example: “Who would you be without that thought?” Do you think the “right” answer is, “I would feel free!” Or, “I would feel peaceful”? Does this prevent you from making a more subtle and more genuine observation?

I suffer from an old wish. Since I was young, I’ve always wished I could wake up feeling like a million bucks.

Sometimes I find myself in a double bind. Being agreeable is my nature. But agreeing gets confusing when others disagree. Who shall I agree with now? It’s a life long side-effect of being agreeable.

A client was working a mildly stressful situation. She just found out she was pregnant and called her parents to tell them the news. Her father kept worrying about worst case scenarios and it stressed her a bit. In the process of working through her Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet on her father, we discovered this underlying belief, “If I openly listen, I’ll buy into it.”

When I come to The Work, I’ve already been doing things the painful way for a while. Through inquiry, I often discover another way to do them, and my behavior shifts spontaneously. I don’t have to try. Just seeing things differently is usually all it takes. But sometimes behavior shifts slowly.

There’s a belief I sometimes have. A belief that if I get what I want (more money, more time, or any end point that I’m seeking) then I can relax. But it’s not the whole story.