Maybe they broke-up with you, or divorced you. Or maybe dying was the way they left you. Or maybe they didn’t leave you physically, but they left you by keeping their distance emotionally.
It doesn’t matter how the separation occurred. What hurts is when we think, “I want them to come back to our relationship,” and they show no signs of doing so. We feel powerless.
Where you had the thought, “I want them to come back to our relationship.” And bring it to blog popcorn tomorrow.
If you don’t know what Blog Popcorn is, you can read this article. Blog Popcorn is basically a way to do The Work of Byron Katie in a group, using the comment section of my blog. Just show up on the blog at 10:30 AM Pacific Time today (convert to your local time here).
And bring a specific situation where you had the thought, “I want them to come back to our relationship.”
I will facilitate the group using the four questions and turnarounds of The Work. We will all learn from each other as we answer the questions together. To learn more about what exactly is The Work, read this article before you come.
One participant, named Rick, wrote, “That popcorn work was pretty cool. I just can’t imagine looking at someone complaining the same way again :o)”
Last week we questioned the belief, “She shouldn’t complain about them.” You should see some of the insights we found.
Another participant, named Susan wrote, “I liked our popcorn session this morning. Much like my mom’s old popcorn popper it took a while to heat up and then when the action started it was rapid fire popping.”
That was great feedback. Today we’re going to try moving along a bit faster at the beginning. The aim is to try to do the whole thing in a half hour. Last week took an hour. We want it to be more doable for everyone, so I’ll be picking up the pace.
So far the majority of people have voted for this time slot. If you are interested in participating regularly, please take the survey and help us choose the best times for everyone.
Here are a few things we have learned that will help make things go smoothly.
1. I will use red color when I’m in the role of facilitator, and plain text when I’m in the role of participant.
2. When you answer a question, use the “Reply” link just under that question. This keeps the comments organized. If you don’t do this, and use the regular comment box at the bottom of the page, it will not keep the comments sorted.
3. Constantly refresh your browser to see new comments as they appear. Some people forgot to do this, and waited in vain for comments to appear. On my browser, Command-R refreshes the page. And I hit it every few seconds whenever I’m not typing throughout the session.
4. Feel free to borrow from what others write. They will give you an idea for your own work. We’re all doing this together, and can learn a lot from each other.
Feel free to show up without a reservation. And you can even bring a friend if you like. The more the merrier.
“I want him to come back to our relationship,” Is that true? Let’s find out during blog popcorn today.
See you on the blog at 10:30 AM Pacific Time tomorrow (Thursday, March 22, 2012). The Blog Popcorn session will begin here in the comment section of this post.
If you get there early, you can start by saying hi, and writing a one sentence description of your situation.
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